i am tara

[thecarlysutra]

Okay, I had originally posted this as private, like notes to me, but it's all really, really true, and really, really me, so not only am I posting it publicly, but I'm adding it to my user info. This is me.

From http://www.9types.com/descr/9/

The Peacemaker (the Nine)

Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured, and supportive. They seek union with others and the world around them.

How to Get Along with Me

* If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.
* I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advatage of this.
* Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.
* Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.
* Ask me questions to help me get clear.
* Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.
* Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.
* I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.
* Let me know you like what I've done or said.
* Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

What I Like About Being a Nine

* being nonjudgmental and accepting
* caring for and being concerned about others
* being able to relax and have a good time
* knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around
* my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator
* my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now
* being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe

What's Hard About Being a Nine

* being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive
* being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline
* being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally
* being confused about what I really want
* caring too much about what others will think of me
* not being listened to or taken seriously

Nines as Children Often

* feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant
* tune out a lot, especially when others argue
* are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves

Nines as Parents

* are supportive, kind, and warm
* are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective

Comments

[nouvelle-aube.livejournal.com]

Isn't that whole Enneagram system fascinating? I think it's the best and most accurate typing tool out there.

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

It's freaky. Every one of those is so me.

[blinner.livejournal.com]

We're personality twins! Yay!

Cool...

[angel-negra.livejournal.com]

So, I wandered over and checked me, a 5, and yeah. It's almost freaky how accurate these things are.

*snuggles you* Btw, can I call you tomorrow night?

Re: Cool...

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

So, I wandered over and checked me, a 5, and yeah. It's almost freaky how accurate these things are.

We are doll parts.

*snuggles you* Btw, can I call you tomorrow night?

I would love that, but my gorram phone company hasn't fixed my plan yet. *kicks it* I'm trying to get that GoogleTalk thing for my laptop, but I need a speaker card or . . . something. I don't know, my Dad's fixing it. I'm sorry. *gloms onto you. Very much a lot.*

Re: Cool...

[angel-negra.livejournal.com]

We are doll parts.

Oo, does this mean I can play with you? Comb your hair and dress you up? Oh! We could have tea parties! :)

I would love that, but my gorram phone company hasn't fixed my plan yet.

So, other people can't call you long distance? *scratches head* Wouldn't it only be a problem if it was you calling me?

Re: Cool...

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

The way I understand it is I get billed if there are minutes out of the country at all, regardless of who's called who.

Because I have the lamest plan ever.

*pouts excessively*

Re: Cool...

[angel-negra.livejournal.com]

Because I have the lamest plan ever.

*blinks* Yes. Yes, you do. Well, at least we have the internet. :) *kisses you*

[carta.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm a nine! I'm also a one, which is an interesting combination, since the nine is the peacemaker, roll-over to make things work person, and the one is the do it my way or DIE person.

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

You're very complicated.

[burnt-isabel.livejournal.com]

I usually kind take personality tests with a grain of salt because they're too broad, but I like the enneagram test.

I'm a 4, 5, and 9, equally.

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

You're a complicated lady, my pet.

*cuddles*

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

Or you're addition!

*amused*

[mojofilter.livejournal.com]

I'm a four. It's fairly accurate. Though, I don't really like compliments. It makes me think about how inaccurate they are, but that goes right along with the rest of being a four. Whee.

[starcrossed.livejournal.com]

Carly, this is me (Becky's) new livejournal. I re-added you in my new friends list (started from scratch) friend back?

[carlyinrome.livejournal.com]

Of course I will, sweetie. I hope things go better for you with your new journal. Tabula rasa and all.

*big hugs*